Romance

Hi! I’m currently 37, single and looking for a life partner. I’ve tried poly, but I’m looking for monogamy, and want to have at least two kids. I own a nice house in a neighborhood with lots of friends of mine who have kids in Oakland, and I’d love to use my extra space for a family of my own instead of a sitcom cast of weird smart houseguests (or in addition to them). I regularly plan events (I have hosted 52 things on Partiful since I got it a bit over a year ago) and go to stuff throughout the Bay Area and often New York as well.

My ideal woman is someone who has plans, schemes, and dreams and wants a guy to help make them happen.

I don’t need a job, but these days I spend time investing in startups, dabbling in philanthropy and grant evaluation, planning events, and taking photos of people and creatures that look cool. I also am in the process of founding my own startup (still in “””stealth””” but give me a few weeks)

Something I used to put in dating profiles is that I’m a Bilbo looking for a Gandalf
but these days I Gandalf for myself and plan my own long journeys to South America, Asia, and Europe.

My favorite bands include the Dreadnoughts, Ludo, the Protomen, Queen, Johnny Cash, and Murder by Death. In general I like listening to punk, folk, broadway, rock, and metal, and I love going out to concerts.

Chat with me on Discord (drethelin#0492), my discord server or Twitter, Instagram or email me

My Goodreads, My spotify playlist, and some photos of me:

A good match for me would be a woman with these traits:
Ambitious
Energetic
Has a good ratio of Practicality/Whimsy
Reads a lot of books
Loves to banter
Wants a gym buddy
Likes to chat daily
Enjoys movies and tv



I might be a good match for you if you want a guy with these traits:
8000+ Karma on Lesswrong
Massage Wizard
Great at forgetting languages
Leaves books on every available surface
Gets distracted if a cool bird flies past
Loves to modify and upgrade my living space (eg ceiling mounted projectors)
Doesn’t drink or do drugs but doesn’t oppose them in others
Goes on frequent short hikes
Broadly libertarian opinions
Dreams of Living in The House on the Rock
Likes to sing in the shower, car, and everywhere else, frequently has sounds playing at home
Thinks most everyone is wrong about most things

First dates I like:
It’s a classic for a reason: the Dinner Date
Dancing at a nightclub
Walking in a nature preserve
Art Museum
Two week long roadtrip
Contra dance

Chat with me on Discord (drethelin#0492), my discord server or Twitter, Instagram or email me