Romance

Hi! I’m currently 36, single and looking for a life partner. I’m looking for monogamy or something very close to monogamy, and want to have at least one kid. I own a nice house in a neighborhood with lots of friends of mine who have kids in Oakland, and I’d love to use my extra space for a family of my own instead of a sitcom cast of weird smart houseguests (or in addition to the fun friends).

My ideal woman is someone who has plans, schemes, and dreams and wants a guy to help make them happen.

I don’t need a job, but these days I spend time investing in startups, dabbling in philanthropy and grant evaluation, planning events, and taking photos of people and creatures that look cool.

Something I used to put in dating profiles is that I’m a Bilbo looking for a Gandalf
but these days I Gandalf for myself and plan my own long journeys to South America, Asia, and Europe.

my favorite bands include the Dreadnoughts, Ludo, the Protomen, Queen, Johnny Cash, and Murder by Death. In general I like listening to punk, folk, broadway, rock, and metal.

A good match for me would be a woman with these traits:
Ambitious
Energetic
Has a good ratio of Practicality/Whimsy
Reads a lot of books
Loves to banter
Wants a gym buddy
Likes to chat daily
Enjoys movies and tv



I might be a good match for you if you want a guy with these traits:
8000+ Karma on Lesswrong
Massage Wizard
Great at forgetting languages
Leaves books on every available surface
Gets distracted if a cool bird flies past
Loves to modify and upgrade my living space (eg ceiling mounted projectors)
Doesn’t drink or do drugs but doesn’t oppose them in others
Broadly libertarian opinions
Dreams of Living in The House on the Rock
Likes to sing in the shower, car, and everywhere else, frequently has sounds playing at home
Thinks most everyone is wrong about most things

First dates I like:
It’s a classic for a reason: the Dinner Date
Dancing at a nightclub
Walking in a nature preserve
Art Museum
Two week long roadtrip
Contra dance

Chat with me on Discord (drethelin#0492), my discord server or Twitter, Instagram or email me

My Goodreads, My spotify playlist, and some photos of me:

Chat with me on Discord (drethelin#0492), my discord server or Twitter, Instagram or email me